DEALING WITH NEGATIVITY!

We all want to live in peace and not want our life in pieces. We do everything that is in our dominance to achieve this goal, yet we find ourselves scattered as shards all over. Negativity creeps into our minds and within no time its presence becomes conspicuous and it reflects in all that we say or do. We need to check negativity before the Pandora’s box opens. Therefore, first we must identify its source and then combat it. The sources can be extrinsic or internal.

I feel it is a plain sailing to shun extrinsic negativity. We just need to alienate ourselves from those people, the negative comments, that particular update, that text message, that debate which has the potential to push us into the rut. On the work front, at times it is not easy to close doors on negative people but a quick reminder about their relevance in our life will seize the moment and spare us the stress.

The negativity that arises from within is very creepy and must be administered quickly. We need to train ourselves to give positive information to our brains at the time of distress. We need to believe that we may be knocked down but we are not knocked out. Creativity drives out negativity. Don’t give your mind idle time to dwell on any negative thought. Look out for your talent and passion and give it a shot. Create something, it will not only propel positivity but will also evolve you. Keep your work station, living space spick and span. An immaculate surrounding will generate a healthy energy.

Confidence, positivity and spirituality need our attention each day, they are very elusive in nature. They become impalpable when we need them the most. Always remember there are many like us who are dealing with negativity. The only thing that makes us solitary is that we may not know them, we may not know their challenges. Let us be grateful for what we have, let us keep a staunch faith in our God and let us spread positivity.

TO MY FRIEND WITH LOVE

As one of my friends embarks on her journey, I wish her a very blissful married life. The face of mankind has changed, years have frozen into centuries yet the ethos of marriage remains the same, though the threads of this delicate relationship have been intrinsically immersed in the modern print.

I belong to the old school of thought; I firmly believe in the sanctity of this sacred relationship. I don’t judge anybody for the choices they make but I strongly advocate that once married, one should put one’s heart and soul in it to make it work. After all a happy home nurtures a happy future.

I think it is a good time to be born as a girl. Lets overlook some of the issues that women today need to address not that they are minuscule in intensity but because over the years women have built strength to confront them.  It is gratifying to see a more vibrant canvas. From education to career there is immense support. I have had the privilege of being acquainted with women who have shouldered the responsibility of their parents along with their husband’s family. I have known daughters who have set an exemplary example for the world to see the wonders that at times even the cherished sons fail to do.

With such empowerment the equilibrium of a marriage changes. Are we prepared for the changes? Is our society ready to accept strong headed women? Are soft hearted men considered as masculine as others? Are the two ready for role reversal as and when required? This transitory equation defines the tangibility of a marriage.

Mutual respect is of prime importance, understanding and love will find its way. One can never understand or love someone at the drop of a hat. Both these virtues take their own course of time, but one can always respect someone without making cosmic effort. Another key catalyst which sparkle the relationship is sharing: Sharing responsibilities, ideas, finance, household chores, fears, joys and sorrows. It takes small things, baby steps to bind two individuals who are raised in different shades of the same colour.

Our Earth is a perfect teacher who nurtures millions of different species by maintaining the balance of all the existing forces. Therefore balance is of utmost importance in any relation. As you tread on this exuberant journey I pray for you and your better half, discover your new self together, unveil each other’s strength, and give wings to your yearnings, fly together and conquer all your dreams.

Wish you a very happy married life!