I belong to the old school of thought; I firmly believe in the sanctity of this sacred relationship. I don’t judge anybody for the choices they make but I strongly advocate that once married, one should put one’s heart and soul in it to make it work. After all a happy home nurtures a happy future.
I think it is a good time to be born as a girl. Lets
overlook some of the issues that women today need to address not that they are
minuscule in intensity but because over the years women have built strength to
confront them. It is gratifying to see a
more vibrant canvas. From education to career there is immense support. I have
had the privilege of being acquainted with women who have shouldered the
responsibility of their parents along with their husband’s family. I have known
daughters who have set an exemplary example for the world to see the wonders that
at times even the cherished sons fail to do.
With such
empowerment the equilibrium of a marriage changes. Are we prepared for the
changes? Is our society ready to accept strong headed women? Are soft hearted
men considered as masculine as others? Are the two ready for role reversal as
and when required? This transitory equation defines the tangibility of a
marriage.
Mutual respect is of prime importance, understanding
and love will find its way. One can never understand or love someone at the
drop of a hat. Both these virtues take their own course of time, but one can always
respect someone without making cosmic effort. Another key catalyst which
sparkle the relationship is sharing: Sharing responsibilities, ideas, finance,
household chores, fears, joys and sorrows. It takes small things, baby steps to
bind two individuals who are raised in different shades of the same colour.
Our Earth is a perfect teacher who nurtures millions
of different species by maintaining the balance of all the existing forces.
Therefore balance is of utmost importance in any relation. As you tread on this
exuberant journey I pray for you and your better half, discover your new self
together, unveil each other’s strength, and give wings to your yearnings, fly
together and conquer all your dreams.
Wish you a very happy married life!
Reena, how beautifully you have presented the current scenario.
ReplyDeleteI would recommend all, especially girls and their parents too read this excellent article, apart from us males!
I don't second u... girls, their parents and boys or say males all need to read and understand this... again u missed the point here of the balance.. Both hands needed to clap, to make balance both need to be at equilibrium status... Both need to u Derraid each other and take responsibility of everything.. be it household chores or finance or social status everything. Don't expect every thing from the girls only...
DeleteBeautifully worded. You are a sane voice in these times of crumbling social ethos and family structures. I wish every one reads this article before stepping in to this sacred relationship. Your friend is very lucky to have a friend like you to guide her.
ReplyDeleteSo agree, marriage is a puzzle which takes a lot of trial and error to fit,and one never knows what picture comes out even when puzzles don't always fit perfectly.
ReplyDeleteBeautifully written. It is very helpful for young generation to understand the value of the relationship
ReplyDeleteI love how these words were able to make me hopeful and feel beautiful about this otherwise 'intimidating' domain that we call these days.
ReplyDeleteThankyou ! :D